Let me start off quoting this Tumblr post:
A survey of 11-to-14 year-olds found:
· 51% of the boys and 41% of the girls said forced sex was acceptable if the boy, “spent a lot of money” on the girl;
· 31% of the boys and 32% of the girls said it was acceptable for a man to rape a woman with past sexual experience;
· 87% of boys and 79% of girls said sexual assault was acceptable if the man and the woman were married;
· 65% of the boys and 47% of the girls said it was acceptable for a boy to rape a girl if they had been dating for more than six months.
Despite surveys like this, it seems the vast majority of adults are still in favor of not talking to children about sex and leaving it up to the media to shape our children’s sexuality. The above is what we get from people who sell sex for a living, selling a false image of women to children.
That mainstream media image problem is why Kristen Stewart is vilified for “being unfaithful” while her older lover walks off scott-free. Shades of The Scarlet Letter, in 2012.
That mainstream media image problem is why Lana Del Rey appears nude on the cover of GQ while all the men are dressed in tuxedos.
This pervasive attitude about women as objects is why an Arizona judge told a woman groped by a cop in a bar, “This wouldn’t have happened if you weren’t there.”
America worships violence and shuns sex while at the same time obsessing over it as the most evil thing. Every movie can have violence, and that’s okay, but even a hint of sex turns the whole thing “adult.”
YA worships the 17-year-old virgin and many stories take slut shaming and sex lecturing to incredible now lows. Stories over and over again present males jerks as “alluring” and “exciting”, and girls are given the same message over and over, to save themselves for their one true love and live happily ever after. At no time will teens be shown a role model already having sex, because that’s evil. So they’re not really young adults to the vast majority of you. They’re just stupid children who need to be lectured to. I’d almost agree that they need lectures. The problem is, looking at the lectures coming from the moral majority, I wouldn’t want kids learning this shit from you. You’re bad role models.
Geek culture jumps on characters like Bella Swan because she’s passive, and then offer one sexist male-created female character after another as examples of “real women.” No shock, almost all of these real women are praised because they act like men. Geek culture can’t handle a woman acting like a woman, so characters who do are dismissed as negative female stereotypes. This is how we get a group of so-called feminists praising Ellen Ripley, a male-created fictional female, and then accuse Bella, who time and again tries to sacrifice herself for her family and friends, of being a “terrible character.” Bella’s low-self esteem and clingy need for approval may be more reflective of the modern teenage girl, but you’ll bash her while praising a woman in a skin tight Lycra body suit because she acts like a man. This is sick social engineering, giving people the idea that women will get somewhere in life only after they act more like guys.
Geek culture tells women they can’t be real geeks unless the boys in the club vet their credentials, otherwise they may just be “whores in glasses seeking attention.” This is from geek males who claim that all of society is unfairly judging them, even though their entertainment industries generate huge profits and billions of positive consumer impressions. Even when they’re winning, geeks claim they’re still the real underdogs, and that women are persecuting them unfairly. Geeks are so afraid of girls in their club, they police their hobbies relentlessly to look for fakes. And wouldn’t you know it? Most of the fakes are the females.
Our society is giving more and more power to males and their increasingly violent values, and even when women speak out and ask for a positive change toward equality, men complain that women are “just drawing attention to themselves.” Well look assholes, if you’re getting kicked on the ground, do you do it quietly and let it happen? NO. You fight back. For men, that’s not just okay, it’s unequivocally enforced as the only way manly males should respond. But women should “just lay there and take it and not draw attention to themselves.”
Men, this is why I’m aggressive in policing your comments. This is why I’m a bitch about your “little jokes” that you don’t think are such a big deal. And a lot of dudes are like, “Hey, lady, I’m a nice guy, so don’t you dare judge me!” Well look, Rambo, the fact is, after you’ve been bitten by ten breeds of dog, you begin to give all dogs a wide berth. You assume all dogs bite, and yes, you plan your whole world-view accordingly. At this point, I’ve had multiple men who claimed to be friends call me a bitch, a moron, a pervert, and yes, even a pedophile. I’ve been told I’m full of shit, or that I’m blowing problems out of proportion. I’ve been told to pipe down, or else I’ll never make guy friends like this. (This despite the fact that I have a lot of guy friends. Those would be the guys who take responsibility for themselves.) I’ve been vilified for wanting to bring up your lousy methods of dealing with sexuality and abuse, and I’ve been asked questions like “What gender were you when you got raped?”
Men have treated me like shit time and again, and so no, I don’t feel I can trust any of you, not even if you act nice around me. I can’t even trust my guy friends because there is the potential that they can turn and attack me for having an opinion. ANY opinion which is contrary to a male’s view is instantly wrong, and my expression of said opinion opens me up to attacks from men. Hey, I was “just asking for it,” wasn’t I?
Despite your aggression, I will keep bringing these topics up because we need to expose the truth before we can work toward any positive change. And the truth is that men are so afraid of sharing space with women that you will attack us and disenfranchise us. You will attack anything we like, and you will promote masculinity over anything feminine. Surveys show that men think women who talk more than 10% of a conversation are “taking over.” You can’t even approach us and offer us a quarter of the same rights to free speech. You’ve dominated the views in all our media outlets, and you’ve ridiculed anything that became popular with women or girls.
This has got to stop, guys. THIS HAS GOT TO STOP. And the only way it will is when you stop talking over us, open your ears, and your brain, and really listen to us. The only way this can stop is if you stop worshiping violence and start treating sex as something less than a power trip. This behavior will stop when men stop shouting about being treated unfairly and realize they’re still standing on women to keep them down.